Showing posts with label boldness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label boldness. Show all posts

Monday, April 21, 2025

Introverts aren't cowards & neither was Gideon

 “Gideon was a coward and idolater."

So declares Carmen Joy Imes in an article posted on Christianity Today on March 4, 2025. Frankly, I expect better from someone who is an associate professor of Old Testament.

Sadly, misguided beat downs on Gideon are common in sermons and articles. This comes from the persistent cultural error of insistently mistaking the quiet strength and wisdom of introverts as cowardice and hesitation.

Gideon’s story shows up beginning in the sixth chapter of Judges. To get to the idea that Gideon is a coward, the first 10 verses – offering crucial context – are skipped over and preachers go right to verse 11 where it says, “Gideon was threshing wheat in the winepress in order to hide it from the Midianites” (CSB). Then there’s the whole wet fleece, dry fleece thing at the end of the chapter.

“See!” the preacher gleefully declares. “Gideon was hiding! He was a scaredy cat! He was a coward! He was indecisive!” And this becomes the warped theme of their misleading sermons and articles.

No, Gideon was not a coward. Rather, he was a wise introvert.

Sadly, because most introverts tend to be quiet, cautious, and measured in their approach to challenging situations, others (extroverts) view them as being cowardly, hesitant, and indecisive.

This is a really wrong reading of what’s happening with both Gideon and introverts in general.

Let’s look at those oft-ignored verses in Judges 6.

The Israelites were enduring a 7-year discipline from the Lord (v. 1). This meant that “whenever the Israelites planted crops, the Midianites, Amalekites, and the people of the east came and attacked them” (v. 3), so the Israelites “made hiding places for themselves in the mountains, caves, and strongholds” (v. 2). When the marauders came, they were “like a great swarm of locusts” and “entered the land to lay waste to it” (v. 5). As a result of this, they “destroyed the produce of the land” leaving “nothing for Israel to eat” nor did they leave any “sheep, ox, or donkey” (v. 4).

Imagine you’re an Israelite in this situation. You’re trying to survive. You plant a crop, and, Boom!, here come the marauders – as thick and voracious as locusts. They take everything that’s out in the open. Your food. The animals you need to help plant and harvest crops. And, for good measure, they take animals that could be used for food or transportation.

Experiencing legitimate and reasonable fear, you hide what you can in caves and hope for the best while waiting for the marauders to move on. This was the life of the Israelites – which includes Gideon – for seven years.

It is in this context that Gideon was “hiding.” Yes, he was fearful, but this doesn’t equate to cowardice. Anyone in that situation would be fearful.

In order to try to provide food for himself and his family, Gideon very wisely chose to do his wheat threshing as quietly and discreetly as possible. Had he “bravely” done this in the open, he likely would have been caught, his food taken, and maybe even his life forfeited.

You know that phrase, “Fools rush in where angels fear to tread”? It’s not referring to introverts. True bravery understands when guerrilla warfare is the better choice over a full frontal assault.

In reality, what Gideon was doing was being bold and brave. There was still serious risk. But he was wisely doing what he could to mitigate the risk by being stealthy and vigilant. In other words, he was behaving like a shrewd introvert! God understands this when the angel of the Lord addresses Gideon saying, “The Lord is with you, valiant warrior” (v. 12). You don’t call cowardly wimps “valiant warrior!”

In the next verses Gideon demonstrates typical introvert behavior. He seeks clarification, takes measured action, responds to the Holy Spirit, seeks additional clarification, and then displays his warrior side openly.

Throughout the entire process the angel of the Lord (aka God) never reprimands, chides, or rebukes Gideon. Even with the whole fleece thing, God is patient and methodical in dealing with Gideon, and, finally, encourages Gideon, saying “Peace to you. Don’t be afraid, for you will not die” (v. 23).

Simply put, God fully sees Gideon, understands his personality (the one he, God, gave him), and deals with him in a way that is respectful of his introversion (the way, he, God, created him).

Culturally, common labels too often attached to introverts include passive, halting, indecisive, shy, tentative, and wimpy. This is because introverts are shaped to be cautious, thoughtful, methodical, quiet, and intentional. In other words, God created introverts (like Gideon) to NOT be extroverts.

The bottom line? Two things.

First, read the Bible better. The bias against Gideon has been around for decades. That he is a coward is the default view. Yet, a close and careful reading of Judges 6-8 reveals a quietly brave man doing his best to serve God within the context of his God-given personality and character.

Second, quiet is not the same as weakness. The bias against introverts and for extroverts is just as persistent. Society equates bravery with boisterousness and brash action. This is deceptive as well as not fair to introverts. Bold is not a synonym for extroversion. Both introverts and extroverts can be appropriately bold within the context of their personality type.

Gideon, the “coward,” led an army of 300 men and routed the Midianite marauders. He and his army pursued every last one, even though exhausted (v. 8:4). Don’t underestimate the persistence of an introvert once they’ve caught a clear vision!

As for the idolator part of Imes' accusation, he wasn’t the one who committed idolatry. The people asked him to be king. Instead of agreeing to be king, or suggesting everyone take a break so he could think things over, he rashly creates an “ephod” which was a kind of idol.

While the details are sketchy, Gideon takes this ephod and erects it in the city. His intention may have been to create a visual reminder of all God had done for him and his people, but instead, the ephod became an object of worship and a “snare” to those who worshipped it.

Even introverts make mistakes. Fortunately, we can confess these and find forgiveness.

Still, the story of Gideon demonstrates how God acknowledges different personality types, and deals patiently and encouragingly with an introvert.

Gideon was not an extroverted, outgoing, charismatic, or flashy warrior hero. He was, instead a quiet hero who faced a tremendous challenge successfully. Just as introvert heroes are doing daily. Look carefully and you may just spot one!

 

 

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Read more here:

#12. Gideon (Part 1): He’s no wimp!

#13. Gideon (Part 2): Mistakes were made.

Monday, June 10, 2024

#22. No, that’s not what an introvert is!

In a recent interaction on social media about introverts in church, Wayne queried, “If I'm introverted why would I be involved in any social circle, why would I post anything? Why would I raise my hand? Why would I bring attention to myself?

Several of us quickly responded, trying to explain that this isn’t how introversion works. Unfortunately, the malformed idea that being an introvert means being a reticent recluse still persists.

Let’s look at the four parts of Wayne’s question: social interaction, sharing ideas, being assertive, and seeking attention.

Social interaction:
What Wayne was asking is, if someone is an introvert, how could they engage in social interaction? The simple answer is that introverts are not shy wall-flowers. Many assume that introversion is synonymous with shyness. Not so! Even extroverts can be shy. Timidity and shyness are fear-based behaviors that can be addressed and changed. Introversion and extroversion are personality styles that are hard-baked into us. Introverts do enjoy and even seek out social interaction. We like people, we like to talk with people, we enjoy being around people. The difference is that we don’t enjoy large groups of people all at once, or extended interactions. These are activities that drain our energy. After we’ve enjoyed someone’s company for awhile, we need to retreat and recharge in solitude for a time. And then, we’re happy to reengage!

Sharing ideas: Often, because we tend to be quiet, introverts are viewed as not having anything to share. Not true! Ideas, opinions, comments and more are always churning in our brains. In fact, inside our heads is often a very noisy place! We have a lot to say, it just takes us more time to formulate how we want to say it. Social media is actually a good place for us to share. It allows us to post our thoughts in writing when we feel they are fully formed. We can also take our time to respond to any reactions to our post.

Being assertive: Related to sharing our ideas, we introverts, over time, learn that to be heard in a group – for example, in a department meeting at work – we need to be a little assertive. Being quiet in general can lead to us being overlooked when we have something to share. This means we have to put ourselves out there a bit, raise our hand, and even sometimes raise our voices a little in order to be seen and heard. It’s a challenge for us, but it is something we can do when it’s important to us. We can be quietly persistent until we’re noticed and allowed to share our thoughts. Later, we’ll go home and take a nap since being assertive really drains our emotional and physical batteries!

Seeking attention: On the other hand, we aren’t big on seeking the recognition spotlight. While, like anyone, we appreciate being acknowledged for our contributions, we don’t need to be fussed over. Receiving an award for something is always nice, but having to get up in front of people and give a speech isn’t necessary. Yes, we will be quietly assertive as appropriate to get our ideas and opinions across, but then we’re happy to step back onto the sidelines where we can get to work. It’s a bonus when someone quietly mentions to us, “I see what you did. Good job!”

However, keep in mind that introversion is a range of behavior. Each person will vary in how they seek or avoid recognition, assert themselves, share ideas, and interact with others. Introversion is not one-size-fits-all!

 

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Saturday, May 18, 2024

#20. No fear

Christian introverts are often mis-identified as being fearful, timid, or shy. A favorite verse tossed our way is 2 Timothy 1:7 that says, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but one of power, love, and sound judgment” (CSB). We are then exhorted to be more “bold” like our extroverted brothers and sisters.

First, introversion is not a lack of boldness or a spirit of fear or shyness. Being an introvert is related to our energy, environment, and focus. (For more on these, see the 11/13/23 column, “Introvert essentials”).  

Second, being biblically bold isn’t about behaving in an extroverted manner. Often, when we talk about someone who is being bold, we add the connotations of extroversion. But when you look up the meaning of “bold,” words such as courageous, fearless, and confident populate the definition. What isn’t included in the definition are words such as loud, outgoing, or expressive. The reality is that you can be bold and quiet at the same time. Let’s look at a couple of examples from the New Testament.

Boldy approaching

Hebrews 4:16 encourages, “Therefore, let us approach the throne of grace with boldness, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in time of need” (CSB). The word translated as “boldness,” in the Greek can mean freedom to speak, to be open and frank, to share without ambiguity. In fact, some versions translate the word as confidence. There is no mention of anything such as exuberant, loud, forceful, or other adjectives that we often attribute to extroverts. In other words, being bold is not an exclusively extroverted behavior. God doesn’t need us to shout for us to be heard.

Boldy giving

At the end of Mark 12, Jesus points out to his disciples the quiet yet decisive act of a widow. We know this as the story of “The Widow’s Mite.” The full passage is found in verses 41-44: “Sitting across from the temple treasury, he watched how the crowd dropped money into the treasury. Many rich people were putting in large sums. Then a poor widow came and dropped in two tiny coins worth very little. Summoning his disciples, he said to them, ‘Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put more into the treasury than all the others. For they all gave out of their surplus, but she out of her poverty has put in everything she had—all she had to live on’” (CSB).

This widow made no show of what she was doing. No one else but Jesus knew what was happening. Yet, the widow was acting boldly in her quiet manner. With confidence, she gave what she had knowing God would provide what she needed.

Boldly seeking

In fact, Jesus cautions against inappropriate outward exuberance. In Luke 18:10-14 he shared the parable of the tax collector and the Pharisee. The Pharisee prayed in what we could label a “bold” manner, telling God all about his own goodness. The tax collector, however, was quiet and humble, yet boldly sought God’s forgiveness. Jesus concludes this parable stating, “everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”

In essence, Jesus is saying that the introverted behavior of the tax collector, in this instance, is more appropriate than the extroverted behavior of the Pharisee.

Both/and

Bold is not a synonym for extroversion. Both introverts and extroverts can be appropriately bold within the context of their personality type. To be bold merely means to be frank, open, unambiguous, confident, and honest. These are characteristics all Christians are called to exhibit, whether boisterously or quietly.

 

Agree? Disagree? Love it? Hate it? Have a question about this blog or this post? Email me at Stephen@QuietlyFaithful.com or leave a comment below. Share your story about being a Christian introvert or let me know a specific topic you’d like to see addressed.