#21. Which is better?

 When I started writing this column, my wife read the first few drafts and asked me, “So, do you think introverts are better than extroverts?" While it's tempting to answer, "Of course!”—I mean, we all want to support our tribe, right?—the real answer is, "No, not at all.”

If my columns have given the impression that introverts are better than extroverts, forgive me for not being more clear. Both personality types are God-given and God-blessed. We need both styles being valued and nourished in our churches.

Unfortunately, in a lot of secular material on introverts, there’s often an edge to the tone implying “introverts-good; extroverts–bad.” While it’s important and useful to acknowledge different personality styles, we need to avoid clashes. As Christians, love bridges and fuels respect for the differences.

Let’s look at a few strengths of both styles and how these can complement each other.

Extrovert strengths

Multi-connectors. Extroverts tend to be able to connect more easily with a lot of people. A great way to leverage this strength is in greeting newcomers to a church.

Fast-thinkers. Extroverts generally think faster on their feet. In situations that require instant decisions and action, they are invaluable.

Go-getters. Extroverts are bent toward immediate action. Once strategies and goals are defined, they are key to ensuring what needs to get done gets done in a timely manner.

Introvert strengths

Deep-connectors. Introverts prefer to connect deeply and meaningfully with a very few people at a time. They can be excellent one-on-one disciplers and mentors.

Slow-thinkers. Introverts process information more slowly, examining issues from many angles, seeking to ensure they understand correctly. They can spot potential implementation issues that extroverts might miss.

Cautious-doers. Introverts tend to be careful and methodical when moving forward. While eager to see objectives get completed, they are also concerned that details not be overlooked.

Putting them together

Looking at these various strengths, how might introverts and extroverts work together?

Projects. Introverts can bring cautious consideration to large projects, while extroverts keep nudging the results forward. This will ensure that each step is completed properly and on time.

Music. With both personality styles on the worship team, this can ensure that the congregation is led in both exuberant praise as well as contemplative worship.

Leading. While extroverts can help encourage active fellowship in small groups, introverts can ensure deeper insights are shared and individuals aren’t overlooked.

We are all necessary

Ephesians 2:10 is well-known and oft-quoted. Here’s my slight paraphrasing of the verse: “For we are all – both introvert and extrovert – his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus, in God’s image, for good works, which God prepared ahead of time for us to do together.”

No, introverts are not better than extroverts. And neither are extroverts better than introverts. Both personality styles are God-created and God-blessed. For the body of Christ to function well, we need to work together, complementing one another’s styles, as we serve in his Kingdom on earth.

 

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